I am writing this post with a little less to really communicate that normal, but I feel that it is very important for everyone to really understand. The purposes of this blog is for me to share with you the importance of asking for and communicating about forgiveness to your loved ones. Many times I am on the telephone with a son or daughter talking about how their loved one needs assistance in home. What I don't know at that time is how active the caller has been with their loved ones life lately. This only runs into problems when there has been a lot of distance in the relationship. Obviously there is care and concern for the caller's loved one or they wouldn't be making the call to us. However, what they fail to tell me is how involved they've been or not been. They also fail to tell their loved one how much they mean to them regardless of the past performance, or lack there of. The caller is always much, much better suited for getting the desired solutions and becoming part of their loved ones lives again if they only spoke about the past, asked for forgiveness and talked about moving forward - regardless of how active they are going to be.
What we see is that when you talk about the past, only briefly and admit the shortcomings, then ask for forgiveness to those shortcomings and how you won't let them happen again - it's a clean slate and the desired solution of achieving the in home care for your loved one is resolved and you now have the peace of mind to move forward. If the three steps aren't taken or taken seriously the process fails since the genuine desire to assist is masked by ones pride, selfishness or something else. Let's not let ourselves get in the way of caring for our loved ones. Let's do what we need to do to move forward safely and confidently for everyone's peace of mind. It can, does and will happen many more times - I just hope you are one of them.